The Time the Girl Teen tried to die on us!!

29/07/19

Here I am relaxing on holiday with my teens and the wife (not yet but nearly) and my skinny little girl teen (she lost a lot of weight in hospital) comes out in her bikini, where her little battle wounds are still visible. It was keyhole surgery she had but her 3, almost one inch scars are a reminder of the awful nightmare we all went through just 7 small weeks ago!

She's amazing considering, although last night was a scare when she was in quite a bit of pain, saying she had stabbing pains in her abdomen. We're in Cyprus ffs, this is the last place I'd want to take you to hospital, stop it child stop it immediately. Luckily it did stop, the girl teen is obedient like that! I still want to wrap her up in cotton wool and keep her tucked under my arm for all eternity, but as the doctor said, I need to ease off a little (not much) ...ok she didn't actually say that bit but in my head Im fairly sure thats what she meant!.. and let her have some fun as she's missed out on so much. Yeah ok Doctor, and how the fuck am I supposed to do that, I'm a paranoid Greek Mum as it is, this kid just tried to die on me. I seriously think I have PTSD!!!

Luckily, I trusted this Doctor, she was amazing and her and her team saved my girl teen from dying so pretty sure she knows her stuff.

Unlike a lot of the other doctors that I fought with daily. I mean, when you see your child literally collapsing and in agony and all they say about her swollen abdomen is that she has 'wind' you kinda wanna rip their goddamn heads off. They had confirmed that she had glandular fever but had no clue as to the collapsing or abdominal pain. Look young junior doctor, I've watched every episode of Greys anatomy AND Holby City....I think I know a damn sight more than you!!! I didn't obviously, but at times it felt like it. If anything, I know my kid a damn sight more than these doctors and this one has the highest pain threshold known to man, so when she's passed out on the floor, for the 6th time, looking whiter than white, waking up in agony, I really do think its a little more than fucking 'wind' How many people did I have to shout at, insist there's something wrong.

There was one moment, after I had gathered her together after yet another collapsing session, with the help of the nurses and placed her back in bed at about 1am, I just looked at my beautiful girl teen with a fleeting moment of panic and thought, "this kid is gonna die on me and no one is doing anything"

Next doctor came in and said 'Has she been yet' I screamed back 'BEEN WHERE???' she's in agony this isn't fucking wind!!! I wanted a scan and I wanted one now! She was then visited by 3 separate doctors and surgeons that night...even had one of the healthcare assistants chant some prayer over her whilst laying her hand on her stomach and taking her blood pressure all at the same time...ok then, a bit weird but by this point I was literally open to EVERYTHING.

The night was long, blood tests every hour, examinations, tons of morphine, which didn't appear to help, they should've given that shit to me, god knows I needed something! I think they finally let her sleep around 4am, where I then either lay in the bed next to her listening to her breathe for fear it would stop, or just stand staring down at her.

She eventually got to go down for a scan the next morning. They said her abdomen was full of thick fluid but they were not sure what it was. By this point my teen was so poorly, weak, raging temperature, swollen throat, they were sceptical about operating as she was so sick. A decision was made by the surgical team that an emergency laparoscopy was needed.

One hour passed, two hours passed, moving onto the third hour when the surgeon comes back, looking completely shell shocked. He started to speak, but it seemed to take forever for him to get his words out as he sunk into the wall behind him. All we heard was blood, she's lost over half her blood volume and is on blood transfusions and we've never seen anything like this before...... and and........I wanted to be sick, I could feel my eyes filling up with a strange wet substance, I wanted to shout "I FUCKING TOLD YOU YOU BUNCH OF FUCKING INCOMPETENT WANKERS" I didn't as my mouth appeared to have fallen wide open! I was frozen, waiting to hear what he had to say next, honestly thought he was going to say she didn't make it, my ex shouted, 'Is she out of danger?' .....we hung on his reply expecting him to say 'oh yes of course' he didn't, he paused then said they needed to see if the bleeding had stopped and if it hadn't she had to be transferred to another hospital, we could go see her in intensive care once they've taken her for a scan. Where now?? Intensive what now??

What was happening here.... Someone was going to pay for this, I wasn't sure who? god had clearly helped out here, I even begged my Dad to use some dead like super powers, I had even let the Healthcare assistant chant her voodoo shit over my kid....but this could've been avoided if someone had just listened to me sooner! I may just be a 'Mum' who may have been told that 'screaming at everyone isn't going to help' but I think this time it fucking did, I'm a Mum who knows her kid, who knows when something is wrong and will shout again and again until something is done. This was definitely one time a Mothers intuition rang true and one time I will never regret being an annoying over bearing mother!

WTAF....it started with a sore throat, she vomitted, heard something pop and the next thing she's collapsing all over the place and bleeding out into her abdomen. WIND my fucking arse!!! (excuse the pun) Where the hell is that useless dumb excuse for a doctor!!!!

So it turns out her spleen burst, she lost 4 pints of the 5.8 pints her tiny body holds and its a miracle she didn't die. Her stats didn't show up anything throughout all of this, her blood pressure was amazingly steady even though she was bleeding out. She was so lucky her body didn't shut down, I mean, how the fuck do you survive with as little as 1.8 pints of blood left pumping around your body? Luckily the spleen did stop bleeding and she just has to be super careful whilst its still swollen from the glandular fever, hence the wrapping in cotton wool and being tucked gently under my arm for the rest of her life !!

The kids is a walking miracle, doctors said if they had left it even ten minutes longer she wouldn't be here to tell the tale. Fuck me! Maybe those useless twats should've listened to my yelling sooner instead of waiting 30 hours to operate !

Literally the worst week of all our lives. My poor boy teen was in the last week of his GCSE's, poor sod. I wasn't around at all but thank god for the wife (not yet but nearly) who took over the exam runs and also my crazy brother who took over, well everything else really, whilst me and the wife (not yet but nearly) sat vigil at the hospital all week.

9 days in hospital, and now into her 6th week of recovery....our 6th week of recovery!

I think it's changed all of us. My girl teen said only yesterday that she sees things differently, sees people differently, has seen how people have reacted, has sadly been hurt and let down by quite a few, which is so sad for an 18 year old, but has also been surprised by the few that have showed amazing support. When you think she was at home for 4 weeks recovering, and maybe had 5/6 visitors, a couple being my best mates and some being her best mates...really makes you think wtaf!!! Personally I want to kill every fucker who has let her down, but thats my issues...I have so many, but fuck me people, my kid could have died!

Of course I've been slated for daring to say 'she could've died' like I've made the whole thing up. Like she went into hospital for a scuffed knee, like the doctors haven't told us time and time again how serious it was. But thats someone else's issues...mainly with me, but that's a whole other blog right there.

Right now, this moment in time, I'm thankful my teen bratts are here with me and are happy and healthy....annoying, but happy and healthy :)

Amen to that :)